Subtle Changes

Through the journey of healing it’s often easy to get discouraged. The feeling that you are stuck or that things aren’t happening. We have all touched on this in some aspect as we write these blogs, but like other things in life it’s not always easy for us to see the subtle changes that are happening. I can relate this to a more physical aspect of life. A few years back I decided I needed to make some changes to my life style and diet to get myself to a healthier place. I was over weight and it was taking a toll. So I began to eat better and work out more. Removing a few things from my life to help this. Well it was discouraging at first cause I couldn’t see the changes occurring in myself. Like many others, I was expecting to see results or some kind of changes faster. It wasn't until others started making comments that I realized the changes were happening but because I was the one looking at myself everyday, I couldn’t see them right away. The same goes for the healing journey on all levels.

Often times we don’t fully realize or see just how much we have changed or grown until someone or something makes us take a step back and look. Someone says something or does something that before would have triggered an old response and you realize you are reacting differently. People look at you differently because of how you carry yourself, or you even realize you are seeing situations in a different light than before. Regardless of what it is, something shows you that change is happening.

Now what do you do with this information? Well, often times I need to sit with it for a bit after I realize it. Are they seeing something different in you? When did the change happen? How do I build off of this? Regardless of what you come up with, the change is real, and if you embrace it and understand that even when it seems like nothing is happening, if you put in the time, the work, and are willing to embrace the changes, you will see that you can, in fact, start to see the subtle differences in yourself and it often times opens your eyes to the changes, or lack there of, in the others around you. I encourage you to not get bogged down in the details and with your head high, shoulders back, and a drive to move, keep pushing for the you that you want to be.